
For the love of Rilya, we need to fix the Black family
by Kimberley Jane Wilson
�Guest Columnist�
Last year, I wrote a column asking "Whatever Happened to Chandra
Levy?" It turns out Chandra�s been dead in Rock Creek Park�just a few
miles from her Washington, D.C. apartment. This mystery is finally over.
In Miami, Florida, however, a beautiful Black child named Rilya
Shenise Wilson is still missing. She�s been gone for over a year, and
her disappearance hasn�t received the attention given to Chandra�s case.
Born in 1995 to an addicted mother who couldn�t take care of her,
Rilya was a ward of the Florida foster care system. She was eventually
sent to the home of Geralyn Graham and Pamela Graham. This is where the
story turns both bizarre and tragic. The social worker assigned to
Rilya�s case was supposed to meet monthly with the Graham sisters. She
didn�t. We now know the social worker was accused of falsifying papers
and allowed to resign.
According to Geralyn Graham, "a professional looking woman" claiming
to be a caseworker from the Florida Department of Children and Families
took Rilya from Graham�s home in January of 2001. That�s the last time
anyone saw Rilya.
When it was determined that Rilya was no longer in the Graham home,
social workers waited before calling the police. An internal memo dated
September 4, 2001 suggests child welfare workers weren�t sure of Rilya�s
whereabouts. For reasons that haven�t been made clear, the police
weren�t called until seven months later.
Those who were supposed to be protecting Rilya have failed. Her
mother and the man identified as her father have been non-factors in her
life. The Graham sisters, while not officially considered suspects in
Rilya�s apparent abduction, took polygraph tests.
According to Miami-Dade Police Director Carlos Alvarez, both sisters
failed.
Rilya�s case is horrible, and it is unfortunately not unique. Our
foster care system is full of hazards. It�s not unusual for children to
end up in homes as chaotic and dangerous as the ones from which they
were removed.
Nobody wants to talk about it, but our communities have a lot of
children like Rilya. Once upon a time and not so long ago, the Black
family had an answer for them. For example, when my great aunt died, my
grandmother took in my great aunt�s orphaned children and raised them
alongside her own. Twenty years later, when my grandmother had just
retired and was looking forward to traveling and relaxing for the first
time in her life, she took in my cousin under similar circumstances.
Grandma wasn�t a rich woman and she wasn�t in perfect health. She
didn�t need the hassle of another child, but another child needed her.
With no fanfare or fuss, she stepped up again and took the baby into her
home. She lived to see the baby boy grow up, graduate from college and
start a career. He became her greatest pride.
This type of behavior used to be common. The very idea that a Black
child would end up in the state�s care was once rejected in the Black
community. Family took care of family.
I wish there had been someone like my grandmother in Rilya Shenise
Wilson�s life. The appalling time lapse between her disappearance and
the notification of the police pretty much ruined any chance that a
happy, healthy Rilya will ever come home. I pray some trace of her and
her fate will someday come to light.
Some people look at this case and want to blame the system. To an
extent, they�re correct. The system failed this child. Some want to
blame politicians and Whites who have "kept the Black family down." For
the love of Rilya�or at least for love of her memory�the Black family
has got to find a way to recover its old strength.
It�s disturbing that not one single adult mixed-up in this story has
publicly admitted to failing to do right by this child. It�s even more
disturbing to see the two most important questions about Rilya�s life go
unanswered: Where is this child and why did it take so long for anyone
to care?
(Kimberley Jane Wilson is a Virginia-based writer and a member of
Project 21�s National Advisory Board. She can be reached at: [email protected].
This column is provided by New Visions Commentaries of the National
Center for Public Policy Research.)
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