UNDERSTANDING
MALE
and FEMALE
DEVELOPMENT
- by Minister Louis Farrakhan
 It
is written in the Qur�an that Allah (God) has ordained struggle
for each of us.
Struggle � to try very hard to deal
with a challenge, problem, or difficulty; to make a great physical
effort to achieve or obtain something.
This Divinely ordained struggle is to manifest
the dormant qualities and characteristics which when manifested
cause us to glorify Allah (God), our Creator. Allah (God) says in
the Qur�an that He never lays on a soul a burden
beyond its scope.
Burden � a load being carried; a
difficult or worrying responsibility or duty; to give somebody a
task that is difficult to deal with or something worrying to think
about.
Whenever there is struggle, there
is a degree of pain. Wherever there is a burden being carried,
there is stress that demands great endurance.
Endurance demands that we continually expand our threshold of pain
so that we might endure to the end. Pain is necessary for growth,
development and for the manifestation of character.
Endurance � bearing anything;
lasting quality; duration.
Pain, though not welcomed, along with work and
endurance are necessary for success. This is the reason why Allah
(God) puts in our bodies centers which gives us pleasure.
Pleasure � a feeling of
happiness, delight or satisfaction; gratification of the senses,
especially sexual gratification, recreation, relaxation, or
amusement, especially as distinct from work or everyday routine.
The
pleasure aspect of life is the reward for going through the pain
of struggle. This is why Allah (God) says, "After
difficulty comes ease." In the ease that comes after
difficulty, is the joy or pleasure of relief from difficulty �
relief momentarily from struggle and the heaviness of the burden.
Allah (God) in creating the woman said in the
Qur�an that, He created her as a consoler and a pacifier
for the man. He created her as a soul in which the man might find
peace and quiet of mind.
She
then in her person represents the joy and pleasure of
his life. Consequently, the Honorable Elijah Muhammad taught us
that, the only heaven for man is found in a woman.
There are many things in life that give the
human being rest, ease, comfort, consolation, and pleasure.
Sometimes, there is the comfort of a touch or a massage; the
comfort of a hot bath; the pleasure of good company; the pleasure
of a good musical or cultural experience; the pleasure of seeing
ones creative mind manifested into concrete reality as the created
object gains for its creator recognition, honor and praise. Along
with these things, there is the great pleasure that comes from a
sexual relationship or sexual intercourse.
As we mature, we learn of the pleasure centers
in our bodies. In this world, it is pleasure in the area of sex
that gives the human being the greatest trouble. There is a
natural yearning or instinct to be around the opposite sex. In the
kingdom of the lower animals and creatures, there is a natural
period of heat in the female in which these creatures will
copulate for the express purpose of the procreation of their
species. This is the nature in which Allah (God) has created all
living things. So it is with the human being. These periods of
heat in the female are to be understood and handled properly by
mothers and fathers. The mothers must teach the young females how
to get through these difficult periods of heat without destroying
their future. Mothers must sit with their teenage and pre-teenage
girls to help them understand what their bodies are going through
and what effect these changes are producing in them.
The fathers should sit with their sons to
discuss this period in their development to help them to
understand what is happening to them; the changes that are taking
place, and the urges and impulses that suggest certain actions to
their minds. If there is no father present, the uncles or the male
members of the church or community should assist the young men in
their development.
During this time of heat in the female, she
inclines more toward the male for attention and affection
primarily from her father, her uncles, her older brothers, and
close male friends of the family. If these males do not understand
what this is in the female, they can and oft-times do take
advantage of such condition, thus, ruining the lives of these
young girls.
Mothers, fathers, teachers, preachers, and
elders are tried severely during this time period in the life of a
young adult. Our desire should be to improve the moral character
of the young adults by helping them to understand the nature of
the male and the female. This is the prerequisite to proper action
and the giving of proper guidance during this crucial period of
male and female development.
Please discuss this article with your teenage
and pre-teenage children.
Thank you for reading these words.
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